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Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life © A.J. Mahari March 2010

Change Your Life - Change Your Thoughts Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Punishment and Revenge in BPD Ebook by A.J. Mahari © A.J. Mahari 2010

Punishment and Revenge in BPD Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines Ebook by A.J. Mahari © A.J. Mahari 2007

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines Ebook by A.J. Mahari

The Power of Gratitude - Healing - Recovery - Wellness and Getting Unstuck © A.J. Mahari December 2010

The Power of Gratitude Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Quest For Self - Building Conscious Self Awareness - Ebook/Coaching Guide/Workbook and Audio © A.J. Mahari January 2011

Quest For Self - Building Conscious Self Awareness Ebook and Audio by A.J. Mahari





My Declaration To My Inner-Child (Children)


LITTLE ONE(s):


I hereby offer you my unbounded vow of unconditional benevolence. I will champion your rights and foster the meeting of your needs and I will sustain you.

I will not undermine, sabotage, or punish you. I will never forsake you little one(s). I will accommodate any and all of your affectations. I will accommodate all of your anger, rage, sadness, loss, grief, joy, and your passionate and life-loving intensity.

I will hold you when you want to be held. I will express your pain, safely. I will express your sorrow and be a vehicle for your joy. I will be your sanctuary, always, little one(s).

I am amazed by your determined strength. You are a wonderful and courageous harbinger. You are so sweet. I love and admire your edge. You are so alive. You so seek and deserve to be known, loved and accepted. You are such an innocent and lovingly strong little child.

For breaking the silence that bound us to the tragic patterns of the past, without our knowledge, I am so grateful to you. As a result of your showing us this link between all of our yesterdays and today, we are now able to continue to separate out every here and now from then. This is the knowledge that makes it possible for us to change. We will continue to work for change whenever we recognize (or are made aware of) a need for it.

This truth, you held, and eventually revealed was so formidable for me to take in as an adult. Your strength takes my breath away. Your strength and dedication to our survival is nothing short of awesome. I vow to passionately empower you, always. I vow to take time to listen to your voice within and to reflect your expression through my soul in our everyday life in the here and now in healthy and meaningful ways.

Little one(s) you deserve love and support and relief and freedom and fun and play. I promise you that I will make room, time and space for you. I will love you and support you. I will continue to foster your burgeoning freedom and freedom of precious expression.

I will ensure that you can play and that you have fun. I am so alive, little one, when I hear your laughter and feel it tickle our soul. For this is joy!

It is not too late to have our childhood baby.

Come, please, come, and acquaint yourself with all of the commitment I hereby extend to you. My arms are outstretched. I will embrace you, lovingly, warmly, tenderly and totally. I accept you. I so value you. You are safe with me. I promise.

I will not hurt you ever again. I now understand that the very past that you helped us survive and made known to me, that very pain, is what separated us. I now know that as I hurt you, hurting myself, I was acting like "him", like "her", like "them" -- the one(s) who hurt us when we were so young, innocent and vulnerable. I am here now to protect you and to take care of you. I love you little one(s).

The silent legacy ends now. I will furnish you with roots from which you can spread your wonder-filled wings and so gently, sweetly, swiftly sensationally soar.


© A.J. Mahari, April 14, 1994


This oath, was placed on this web site on December 2, 2003 because I didn't know where it was. Luckily I recently found it.


as of December 2, 2003




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