A.J. Mahari, a woman who recovered from BPD 14 years ago, is the Author of 14 ebooks and 24 audio programs a speaker, Mental Health Coach and Life coach.
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has at its very roots the the core wound of abandonment It is a relational disorder. Key borderline facts everyone needs to understand include attachment issues, fear of abandonment, lack of object constancy (objects relation theory), self harm, depression, and narcissistic defense mechanisms such as splitting, projection, and alternating idealization and devaluation. Borderline Personality Disorder is often at the heart of verbal abuse, physical abuse, domestic abuse, emotional abuse and intense unstable and often self-defeating patterns of relating.
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Punishment and
Revenge in Borderline Personality Disorder The Unmastered Talionic Impulse - What Loved Ones Need To Know and what those with BPD will learn from
also if they are in an aware enough place to cope with any triggers that this subject might well bring up for them.
I hope you will join my newsletter. There are a few different topic areas that you can choose from and get much more in depth information from me. You can choose just one area, like Borderline Personality, whether you have it or you are a loved one of someone with BPD or you can choose as many subject areas as I offer currently. I will, from time to time, be offering special discounted bpd/life coaching sessions, specials on ebooks or audio programs of mine as well as sharing much more in video with my newsletter subscribers only. I hope you will join me to stay up-to-date on the many new and exciting things I will be sharing and offering. I will also be giving my newsletter subscribers the first up-dates on my memoir about my recovery from BPD and much more!
A.J.'s Audio Program Borderline Splitting - Understanding for Loved Ones
A.J. Mahari is currently writing a memoir about her life and experience as a person who had two parents with Borderline Personality Disorder, as a person who was diagnosed herself with BPD at the age of 19 and from her perspective as someone who has recovered from BPD. There is a new section on her BPD Blog called The Diary - My Borderline Years
| Pain on Both Sides of BPD |
Audio Program "Preparing For Recovery From BPD" Parts 1 & 2 by A.J. Mahari
Audio Program Rage Addiction in BPD by A.J. Mahari (sold separately or packaged with Mahari's Ebook, "Rage and BPD")
At the heart of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) despite any and all other theories, in my opinion as one who has been there and had BPD, is what I call "The Core Wound of Abandonment". Abandonment trauma in Borderline Personality Disorder is the result of the core abandonment wounds that are central to the cause and course of BPD. It is the core wound of abandonment that for whatever reason or collection of reasons causes the arrested emotional development that results in the loss of one's authentic self and that I, from my own experience and recovery, conclude is the very essence and nature of what Borderline Personality Disorder actually is. You can read more about how I describe and outline what Abandonment entails and actually is in its broadest sense.
Punishment and Revenge in Borderline Personality Disorder
You can purchase a 2 hour talk A.J.gave to a group of Loved Ones of those with BPD (primarily) about tough love and BPD, BPD and Responsibility, Lack of Emotional Skin in BPD and more You can purchase this talk in audio or video format.
- Purchase all 3 of ebooks for NON BORDERLINES
- Non Borderlines - You can purchase 6 ebooks packaged together with or without audio.
- Those with BPD and/or Non Borderlines can purchase A.J. Mahari's 3 "Core Wound of Abandonment" series ebooks packaged together with or without audio.
A.J. Mahari on Fault Vs Responsibility in BPD
You can purchase A.J.'s entire video lecture at Phoenix Rising Publications
I have written a 253 page ebook called, The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD - An examination of the core wound of abandonment and Borderline Personality Disorder that is a follow up to my first ebook, The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder which is a detailed history, from the inside out, as someone who has been there and recovered from BPD, of how and why the abandoned pain of those with BPD keeps them stuck in the agonizing and seemingly mystifying suffering of Borderline Personality Disorder. This ebook is also a precursor to the ebook that followed it, The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self That Arises Out of the Core Wound of Abandonment In BPD Each ebook is available separately or all 3 can be purchased together with or without audio programs as well.
The core wound of abandonment is traumatic enough to perhaps cause some changes on a biological level. What I take issue with though as the biological theories are put forth is that there are not contained in those theories, or articles, the reality that many are recovering from BPD and that DBT Skills Training Schema Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy along with psychotherapy - talk therapy - can and will (in most cases) address the organization of thoughts based upon reactionary protective instinctual behaviour while under the stress of the trauma to the point where one can change the way they think and more or less reverse the damage and/or manage their way out of BPD.
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