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Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life © A.J. Mahari March 2010

Change Your Life - Change Your Thoughts Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Punishment and Revenge in BPD Ebook by A.J. Mahari © A.J. Mahari 2010

Punishment and Revenge in BPD Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines Ebook by A.J. Mahari © A.J. Mahari 2007

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines Ebook by A.J. Mahari

The Power of Gratitude - Healing - Recovery - Wellness and Getting Unstuck © A.J. Mahari December 2010

The Power of Gratitude Ebook by A.J. Mahari

Quest For Self - Building Conscious Self Awareness - Ebook/Coaching Guide/Workbook and Audio © A.J. Mahari January 2011

Quest For Self - Building Conscious Self Awareness Ebook and Audio by A.J. Mahari

What is Abandonment?

Abandonment is often misunderstood by many with BPD. It is much more than emotional or physical abandonment.

Abandonment has often been thought of by many to be of a physical nature - as in desertion and neglect or primarily of an emotional nature - as in when a child is not nurtured or given the necessary attention and healthy love to feel safe and secure.

Both of these situations or realities do constitute forms of abandonment. There are other types of abandonment that are often significant in the lives of those who end up diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.






Abandonment is:

  • a feeling
  • a feeling of disconnection
  • a feeling of loss
  • an aloneness and longing loneliness
  • intense feelings of being devastated when a relationship ends
  • fearing loss so much that one is too afraid to even risk being connected
  • a mother leaving her child
  • a father leaving his child
  • death of a pet
  • loss of a job or career
  • moving
  • a boy or girl realizing they are homosexual and fearing rejection
  • being rejected
  • lack of purpose
  • not knowing who you are
  • a childís agitation in response to emotionally unavailable parents
  • death of a loved one
  • loss of a friend
  • a woman alone after her husband cheats on her
  • a divorce
  • a cold distant parent
  • a familyís ďdonít talkĒ rule
  • being emotionally, sexually, or verbally abused

Abandonment is a deep and abiding wound at the epicentre or heart of human experience. It is a painful and empty feeling. It is at the heart of the causation and also the way to recovery from Borderline Personality. The core wound of abandonment, as A.J. Mahari calls it, leaves a legacy that many experience as the issues that Borderline Personality (not a great way to describe them) actually means in terms of insecure or a lack of attachment. In her capacity of a BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, helps people with BPD to gain awareness and learn new ways of thinking, coping, and a variety of skills using an eclectic and multiple treatment modality that Mahari tailors to each client. She also works with those with abandonment issues who do not have BPD as well as BPD loved ones.

A.J.'s 5 Core/Legacy of Abandonment in BPDBundled Ebook Package







BPD Coach A.J. Mahari




BPD - Feeling Alone



The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder © A.J. Mahari 2006

The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder

The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder © A.J. Mahari 2006

The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder

Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance for Non Borderlines © A.J. Mahari 2006

The Lost Self in BPD



Break Free From the BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines Audio Program © A.J. Mahari 2006

The Lost Self in BPD

5 Bundle Set Ebooks - Core Wound In BPD © A.J. Mahari 2006

5 Bundle Set Ebooks - Core Wound In BPD

Adult Child of BPD Mother in Search For Closure Audio © A.J. Mahari 2006



A.J. Mahariís Thought Changing Affirmations 5 Volume Set © A.J. Mahari 2006

The Lost Self in BPD