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A.J. Mahari

I had BPD. I was the child of two parents who had BPD - in the non borderline role at that time. Then as I got older, I was both a borderline and in the non borderline role with my parents. I became the adult child of two borderlines. Years after my recovery from BPD I had a relationship with a partner who has BPD/NPD. Vast experience in an area where experience is painful. Painful experience, however, as I've come to realize is quite the teacher if we are willing to be the students of its lessons.

It is my goal to have as much information about all of the puzzle pieces that form the over-all enigma of Borderline Personality Disorder While the information on this web site will hopefully be helpful to those with BPD, I have heard from thousands of non borderlines over the years that have also found this site invaluable in their journeys.

A.J. Mahari is currently writing a memoir about her life and experience as a person who had two parents with Borderline Personality Disorder, as a person who was diagnosed herself with BPD at the age of 19 and from her perspective as someone who has recovered from BPD. There is a new section on her BPD Blog called The Diary - My Borderline Years

I know from my own personal recovery that it is possible. I know that if you are borderline, you need to have hope. Bring trapped in borderline pain can seem and feel pretty hopeless. If you are non borderline there is hope for you too in or out of chosen or unchosen relationships with those with BPD.

"A.J. Mahari has been writing about Borderline Personality Disorder From The Inside Out for over 10 years now. She is a wonderfully insightful and highly credible guide into this most complicated personality disorder for both those with BPD and non borderlines. Mahari's articles and ebooks are welcome light in an otherwise often dark journey of lostenss." -- Kelly Hodgins, Ph.D.

I have come to understand that each of us, indeed, does have a place in this hectic and often over-burdened world of ours. This place is found within our individual spirit, deep down inside of ourselves. This place, my place in the world, your place in the world, truly exists and awaits your welcoming it with open arms into your everyday experience. This place, is the place inside of you, where you meet, greet, and accept your authentic self. It is where you will also find the best friend that you can ever have in this world. Your place in the world must first be claimed from inside of yourself, from your inner world. Then from this place, you can seek to better define and enhance the other places that are yours, or that you want to be yours, in this world.

It is my hope that you will find something that enables you to keep actively moving forward in your journey toward your desired goals in life as you read what I have assembled and or written myself here for you.

"Finding Hope From the Polarized Negativity of BPD"

Audio Program "Preparing For Recovery From BPD" Parts 1 & 2 by A.J. Mahari

I am a great believer that we can heal, we can change, we can find happiness and some measure of peace in life. We just need to remain true to our own processes and true to ourselves. I hope that you will remain true to the lost authentic self that you, if you have BPD, may still be on the journey of finding. Be strong and determined. If you are close to or have been close to someone with BPD you may also be in search of your own healing.

At the heart of the journey of recovery is the journey from From False Self to Authentic Self A journey that requires understanding the nature and scope of Emotional Dysregulation and being open to the quest for the hard-fought for process that can get start you on the road to change through Finding Hope From the Polarized Negativity of BPD

© A.J. Mahari February 14, 2008

Audio Program Rage Addiction in BPD by A.J. Mahari (sold separately or packaged with Mahari's Ebook, "Rage and BPD")

Last up-dated on April 6, 2009