If you are in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) I understand and share your grief. My ex had a BPD which included pathology such as lying. I was glad to have had the strength to remove myself from the relationship with this person I loved who, at the core, had a good heart but a weak spirit and the grieving persists beyond the joy of having an authentic life back.

What has helped me to deal with the grief, exacerbated by his death following soon after the divorce, is my belief that we are all here to learn "lessons" for spiritual growth and everyone who comes into our life is a "teacher". These other souls may not be meant to stay with us, but rather move on to their next purpose as we move on to ours. This has lessened my grief as it brings me the comfort of knowing that all things happen as they are meant to happen in the course of our lives. That when they leave our lives we can find peace in knowing that they have fulfilled their purpose. ;) I hope this helps you in some way.

Wende

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