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First Steps in Borderline Personality Recovery
BPD Coach A.J. Mahari, in this 1 hour and 47 minute audio talks about the first steps in recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. The first steps that are key to getting on the road to what makes recovery possible. There are two very formidable beginning steps that pave that way for the climbing of the mountain that is recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder.
This audio also comes with a PDF Journal and Thought Record Exercise to help you examine what you are thinking and believing about the first steps of recovery from BPD.
You can empower yourself today by becoming more aware of these steps and by being willing to take action on them in your life. Recovery from BPD is so very possible but you have to do your part and you cannot be rescued, but you can be supported, validated, taught, and educated along the way that is the process of recovery from BPD.
However, without these first two steps, the beginning steps to get on that pathway, without learning more about what they are and how to implement these steps you may well remained blocked in the pain and suffering along with the confusion and woundedness of Borderline Personality Disorder.
A.J. Mahari recovered from BPD in 1995 and she knows what that process entails. Despite individual differences or different therapy approaches, notwithstanding that Mahari does not support the notion of BPD as a “brain disorder” that requires psychiatric medication – she was not on psychiatric medication before, during, or after her recovery from BPD – there are so many common steps that need to be taken to be able to actually recover. Mahari’s recovery does not involve symptom management. She is and has been BPD-free for 16 years and so too can you be.
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© A.J. Mahari, December 11, 2011 – All rights reserved.
A.J. Mahari Facilitates Dialectical Equanimity in her Mental Health and Life Coaching
Life Coach. She works with clients from all over the world who have
Borderline Personality Disorder or who have a family member, loved one,
or relationship partner (or ex) who has BPD. She also works with people
with many other concerns and issues in their lives. You can read much
more about A.J. Mahari's mental health and life coaching at Touchstone Life Coaching Services
At the heart of the methodology and eclectic techniques used by
Mental Health and Life Coach A.J. Mahari is what she refers to as Facilitating Dialectical Equanimity.
What does that mean you might wonder? Anything dialectical – any thing experienced, felt, or any process that is
of or characteristic of a dialect is the art or practice of logical discussion as employed in
investigating the truth of a theory or opinion or of one's feelings for that matter.
Philosophically speaking, in Kantian epistemology, a dialect is a "fallacious metaphysical system arising
from the attribution of objective reality to the perceptions by the mind of external objects"
(Random House Dictionary, ? Random House, Inc. 2009)
What is common to all people, in my experience, who seek me out as a Mental Health and Life Coach, is that
at some level and to some degree there is in some area of their lives a loss of balance that results often
in polarized thought based upon emotional experience.
Read more about A.J. Mahari's Facilitating Dialectical Equanimity for everyone she life coaches and not just for those with BPD.
? A.J. Mahari, April 26, 2009 – All rights reserved.
Life Coaching – Self Help For Managing The Symptoms of Borderline Personality With A.J. Mahari
Self help for managing the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder in the experienced practice of life coach and strategist A.J. Mahari offers those with BPD the opportunity to gain an increasing awareness validated and supported by A.J. Mahari's eclectic, dynamic, and compassionate approach to life coaching those with Borderline Personality Disorder.
A.J. Mahari has been recovered now for 14 years. Mahari has not merely recovered from the symptoms of BPD – she has recovered from BPD entirely. She has been online writing articles, ebooks, audio programs (and being the speaker in those programs as well) and doing video and audio podcasts now for 14 years as well. Mahari has been life coaching those with BPD and their loved ones, family members, and relationship partners for 6 years now. That's a lot of experience!
Mahari offers support for those with Borderline Personality Disorder who are ready to begin to explore how they can help themselves change their suffering into manageable pain. Support for recovery and healing from BPD that is multifaceted and tailored to the needs and goals of each individual client.
- The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of BPD
- Inside The Borderline Mind
- The Shame of Abandonment In BPD
- Breaking Free of The Borderline Maze – Recovery For Nons
- Facing the Facts of BPD – On The Other Side For Nons
- Overcoming Denial About BPD and Love
Mahari not only can help explain the language of Borderline Personality Disorder, a language that is a pervasively emotional one, to those with BPD and to their loved ones, but she can also understand the dilemmas that loved ones are grappling with because she has been there too. Mahari's parents both had BPD. She has also had a relationship with someone who had BPD/NPD. She doesn't just know the language of those with BPD, because she had BPD, she also knows the confusion, pain, heartache, and need for understanding on the other side of BPD from first hand life experience.
Self help for managing the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder cannot take the place of therapy but it can, and in Mahari's life coaching it does, augment the process of therapy. A.J. Mahari offers her life coaching clients an unparalleled 360 degree full circle understanding of BPD and all of its challenges and complexities.
A.J. Mahari's life coaching has helped and continues to help her clients change their lives. Mahari is a compassionate and supportive life coach. A very knowledgeable and incredibly aware force for change in the lives of those she coaches.
Just read what a few of her many clients have to say:
"A.J. has been so helpful to me as a life coach. She understands so much about BPD. She understands so much about me. In working with A.J. over the last few months I have really found myself in a much more even and calmer emotional place. My relationships are getting better. I am relating better. I am more able to listen to what people are actually saying than I've ever been able to before. A.J.'s compassion has reached me in a way that no one else in my life ever has. We continue on the journey but I know that I wouldn't be where I am today without A.J.'s continued support and guidance." — Timothy Tanner
"A.J. is such a powerful teacher. Sometimes, in our sessions, it isn't even what she says that teaches me so much. I have come to realize it is just as often what she doesn't say as what she does say. I find that amazing. A.J. is a gifted woman. A very wise woman. A very compassionate woman. You may know that from reading her work online or from watching her videos or listening to her audios but when you work with her as a life coach all of what you see and hear from her online is multiplied to the positive 10 times over. I can't even describe it. My life is changing. I am changing. I am learning to connect to myself in ways I never thought possible before. It is that connection, so fostered and supported by A.J. as my life coach, that is helping me to finally learn how to really connect with others. I am so grateful and so glad I have A.J. as my life coach." — Meagan S.
"I did a lot of searching online for a life coach before I decided to give A.J. Mahari a try. I choose to work with A.J. – try her out as I said, at first, because she has been around for a lot of years. She has a proven track record as someone who has been recovered for over a decade. She's solid in her recovery. All I had to do was read her articles, ebooks, watch some videos, it was all there – it is all there for anyone with BPD (or someone who has someone with BPD in their life) to see. A.J. Mahari is the real deal. It was only a try at first. That's all I was prepared to do. I wasn't sure that I trusted the whole concept of a life coach. Little by little I began to open to up as I realized how much A.J. was there for me and how much she cared to help me to help myself. And that's the key thing here, for me, in working with A.J. Mahari as my life coach, as much as she knows and I know she knows a lot, she is helping me to find my own way. She is helping me to really help myself. It is one of the most amazing experiences I've ever had." — J.W.Z.
"I am a much improved human being emotionally since working with A.J. Mahari has my life coach. I still have BPD but I am, as she says, making my way down that road to recovery. It only took 2 session with A.J. to really start to see the possibility of making changes to make my life better. Another few sessions later that possibility was reality. It was happening. It continues to happen. I am really changing, finally. And, I know that I am the one doing the changing. A.J. is so clear about empowering me to help me and as she says all the time, it's my journey, I'm in charge of it and A.J. is just my mirror. What an incredible mirror and mentor she is." — Rosanna R.
If you have BPD and you would like to read more about A.J. Mahari's Life Coaching because you are wanting to help yourself (whether you are in therapy too or not) please do visit her website at: touchstonecoaching.ca
You can also check out her Video Podcast, her Audio Podcast, Ebooks, Audio Programs, and/or her Video Lectures as well as her videos on YouTube.
A.J. Mahari also life coaches family members, loved ones, relationship or ex-relationship partners of those with Borderline Personality Disorder.
? Touchstone Life Coaching Services March 13, 2009 – All rights reserved.
A.J. Mahari – Profound, Prolific, and Substantively Practical Information about Borderline Personality Disorder
Along with all of A.J.'s other online videos you can now avail yourself of A.J.'s unique insight and educational approach to providing substanitive and indepth understanding about Borderline Personality Disorder by subscribing to her video podcast via itunes. You can also subscribe via itunes to her audio podcast as well in which Mahari features entirely different content in her own down-to-earth and profoundly insightful and articulate educational and compassionate style of communication.
A.J. Mahari, unlike anyone else online, has been recovered from BPD for 14 years. She also has a very unique and extensive experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, recovery and healing, in a 360 full circle way from various perspectives. A.J. Mahari not only had BPD and recovered but she also had 2 parents with BPD and knows the heartache of being the child and then adult-child or borderline parents. She also, years after her own recovery from BPD had a relationship with someone who has BPD/NPD so Mahari has walked in the shoes of the non borderline partner of someone with BPD as well.
Mahari's messages, be they via her Ebooks or Audio Programs or her Life Coaching blogs here or her Articles On BPD and/or her Articles about BPD For Loved Ones, Family Members, and Relationship Partners – Non Borderlines, through her new Video Podcast or her BPD Audio Podcast are some of the most insightful, prolific, educational, compassionate, and supportive ones around. Mahari, more than anyone else in the world of explaining Borderline Personality Disorder has a unique insider perspective and a proven track record of 14 years online now.
A.J. Mahari provides her readers, life coach clients, viewers, and listeners with profound, prolific, and substantively practical information from her own experience in overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder from the inside out – as one who has been there on both sides of BPD. Mahari is an inspirational well of wisdom whose brand of unique substance and compassion is unparlelled.
? Phoenix Rising Publications February 3, 2009 – All rights reserved.
Life Coaching For Family Members of with a Borderline Loved One
A.J. Mahari has 5 years experience as life coach working primarily with family members, loved ones, ex and relationship partners of people with Borderline Personality Disorder as well as those who have BPD.
Why would a love one – a non borderline – of someone who has BPD want or need or benefit from life coaching?
The answer is simply-complex. The short answer is because you are in pain and you need to find more effective and healthier ways to cope with that pain and with the complicated challenges of caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
In my work as a lifecoach many non borderline clients have given me the feedback that they experience the support, understanding, and validation of their own challenges to be central to finding their way to the kind of change that they need to work to create in their lives, whether they are staying in a relationship, or in contact with the borderline in their lives or not.
While there are many avenues of support when one is in a confused and emotionally painful and difficult situation it is important to confide in someone with a deep understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Borderline Personality Disorder is a very complex mental illness that profoundly effects not only those who are diagnosed with it but anyone and everyone that cares and/or loves them.
As a life coach I am a change-agent. I have found my way, personally in my own life, through the many mazes on both sides of Borderline Personality Disorder. I understand the pain and the process that must be navigated in order to win the emotional freedom, whether one remains in relationship and contact to the borderline in their life or not.
Family members, loved ones, parents of adult children with BPD, adult children of a borderline parent, ex or relationship partners of those with BPD all have one thing in common – the pain that is living on the other side of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
You can claim your emotional freedom. You can get back in touch with a yourself, a self that you may feel you are either losing or that you may have already lost. You can find your way back to the you that you were before the pain of the enigmatic roller-coaster toxic relational dynamic with someone with BPD in your life.
What you need is change. What you specifically need is change in your own life. If you are in pain and suffering yourself, you need to create change in yourself. You won't find the emotional freedom, the healing, and the relief that you seek through trying to rescue the borderline in your life.
You cannot change or rescue or fix the person you care or love that has BPD – no matter what you do or how hard you try.
? A.J Mahari, September 13, 2008 – All rights reserved.
A.J. Mahari Offers a Life Coaching Program For Borderlines
A.J. Mahari, a recovered borderline, offers Life Coaching Programs For Those With Borderline Personality Disorder – This first program consists of 6 Sessions Designed To Enhance Awareness
One of the major challenges for those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is addressing a lack of awareness of the very issues that so affect their lives. This compromised awareness is a result of the split between the borderline’s intellect and emotions. Those with BPD are often very competent and strong intellectually. However, emotionally, the opposite is often the case. Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have suffered arrested emotional development caused largely by what I refer to as the core wound of abandonment.
In response to each of the traits that define BPD those diagnosed with BPD have an elaborate system of defense mechanisms that is a major obstacle to the emotional (and often cognitive)awareness necessary for recovery.
Enhancing Emotional Awareness
A.J. offers those with Borderline Personality a life coaching program designed to support and encourage the maintenance of your emotional regulation in the here and now as you explore the changes that you seek to make. This life coaching program for those with BPD consists of 6 sessions designed specifically for those with BPD for $350.00. This package is available either via email or phone. Unlike sessions where those with BPD seek out life coaching with A.J. from the perspective of what they may be focused on this program is one that A.J. has devised and it follows a specified method of coaching. The cost of the program does not include any long distance charges that you might incur.
Purchase this life coaching program with A.J. Mahari
? Touchstone Life Coaching Services 2008 – All rights reserved.
- A.J.’s Ebooks
- The Shame of Abandonment in BPD Audio By A.J. Mahari
- A.J.’s Audio Programs
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